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of course it is go for it
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Yea..thats what she wants..someone to take her attention away from the breakup.
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Yes.
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you can take it slowly and hopful she wouldnt mind going out with you to the movies or even for a coffee.. but general take your time. you do not want to break her heart again or hurt he feeling etc. good luck
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i would wait about a week because if she went thrugh a really bad breakup then she wont want to go out with anyone rite now but if she dumped the guy then ask her out on monday!
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i think first u should just try to be her friend. because she might not have gotten over her last relationship yet. then maybe after she gets over it she will be more likely to go out with you.
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first, you should make sure that she is ok, and ready to date again, be there for her as a friend, a very close one. if she is ready to date again, just ask.
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I say wait abit. Id imagine if she just broke up or had a relationship a while ago, she might either be abit confused about what she wants or needing time to breathe. Thats how it is for some of the breakups ive encountered.
If you come in at this sort of time, you either lose a shot at her cause of bad timing and will never get it back again or you do get with her..but since shes confused/wants freedom to breathe she might bring up troubles.
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One Chinese saying: “To get the tiger cub, one must venture into the tiger’s lair.” Essentially, no gamble, no gain. Actually I was thinking that she may not be ready for another date so fast, but some of the previous answerers all said yes so I will second their opinions. You go guy!
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you don’t want to be the fall guy 9 out of 10 those guy end up being a ” friend” which translate to no sex. You want her then be a man and not a “friend”
Ask her out with is in mind because she is not thinking about you right now she is thinking how sad it is to lose someone.
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if she just broke up w/ someone she might not be ready for another boyfriend. give it a little bit…not to long cuz like you said you dont want someone else to ask her first. if shes sad about her break up i think the best thing you can do is be her friend like you know her shoulder to cry on that way shell see you really care about her and after a lil bit go for it nd ask her out.
good luck
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If you ask her now there is a chance that you’ll just be someone she uses to get over her former, but there’s also a chance that she’ll end up really liking you and staying with you. There’s also the chance that she’ll say no, but if you like her – then ask and see where it goes, otherwise you’ll never know and always wonder, and that’s far worse than being rejected.
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Go ahead and ask her out. If she’s not ready then she’ll tell you. Don’t sit back and wait for somebody to take her. Good luck.
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YOU SHOULD ASK HER OUT. OF COURSE, THERE IS A CHANCE THAT SHE STILL LOVES HER EX AND U WILL BE JUST A SUBSTITUTE. BUT THE OTHER POSSIBILITY IS THAT SHE NEEDS ATTENTION NOW MORE THAN EVERY OTHER TIME. SHE WILL BE MORE OPEN AND UR CHANCES FOR STARTING A RELATIONSHIP R BETTER. IN BOTH SITUATIONS U GOT NOTHING TO LOSE.AND AS U SAID, SOMEONE ELSE MIGHT ASK HER FIRST.
SO GO FOR IT, BE GENTLE AND SENSITIVE, TRY TO MAKE HER LAUGH AND DON’T BE TOO PUSHY.
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Of course ask her, she probably needs someone to lean on.
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I think that you should wait a while. First, was the breakup bad and is she heartbroken? If not you can move in sooner, but if it was hard on her give her time. Try to be a good friend to her and it could develop into more. GIve the girl at least a few days… and go with what your heart says.
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dont ask her out. you will become the rebound. right now, shes only wanting her ex. you have to wait til shes over him. if someone asks her before you, he’ll become the rebound also. become friends with her but dont ask her out.
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i think u should wait coz she muz be some depressed after the break-up.. so if u ask her out now she may decline … give her sometime!
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try to be friends with her first, and see how she feels about the breakup. it might be to soon and she might say no and feel really awkward. try being friends with her for now, then once you know she over it, ask her out!
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your in a tough spot.you dont want to be pushy but you dont want to lose this chance either.I personaly would make myself available to her.be her friend right now and go to a movie or dinner.take it where it leads you.it may lead to what your both looking for but it may not.just be their because if you arent somebody else will be.good luck!
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You should wait a bit before you ask her out so you wont be the rebound guy. Rebound guys dont stay very long. So, its best to wait and not get your heart broke and ruin what you two could have had if you had waited til she was over the break up. If someone else asks her out before you do… dont worry, just be patient and wait for them to break up. Good luck!! Take care
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yes, go for it…a single date is not going to hurt anyone. it will actually make her feel better- that is if she says yes.
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Just start out by being a good friend to her and don’t jump into anything to soon
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Yes. First flirt with her and try to make her smile. A smile always brighten up person life when they are going through some issues. Then ask if she would like to go out and give her your number&email so she can call you. Always exchange numbers. Never leave it open for her to call you. Trust me they never call. So atleast you will have her number when she does not call within 48 hours. Ask her out over the phone and ask her where would she feel comfortable going. Only bring up her break up if she brings it up. Listen to her! If you are great listener than the ball will be in your court. Good Luck!
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Why don’t you just befriend her right now. If it is a hard breakup for her, she may not be ready to date someone else yet. If you give her some time, she might go out with you a litle bit later.
This happened to me. I had been dating a guy for around 2 years. Anyway, we broke up and another guy who is a friend just kept asking me out. Well, I couldn’t handle it right then…I needed a little bit of time. Well, it really hurt his feelings and made me uncomfortable. If he had waited a few weeks, I would loved to date him, but by then couldn’t because I had turned him down before. It is still one of my biggest regrets that I didn’t date him when I had the chance, but I just couldn’t handle it right then.
Besides, you don’t want to be the rebound guy. You could tell her that you have been interested in her, and you would like to go out with her, but you know that she may need some time to get over her last boyfriend. Tell her you would like to just support her and be her friend while she takes some time to herself. (Girls get all mushy over stuff like that)
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