What should I think when my boyfriend….?
December 21st, 2009
Okay I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years now. We recently took a break for about 3 weeks. After we got back together a girl (Jane) whom I’ve never heard of before called him at 11pm and I questioned him, thinking it was too late at night to call. So I asked im who Jane was and he told me “oh she is an old friend, I was friends with her boyfriend and her and I ran into her on campus recently”. I didn’t question him on this until I found out on facebook that she doesn’t even go to his school as he had previously told me. I questioned him and he tore me a new asshole telling me that I don’t trust him. He was really defensive and told me that Jane used to go to school with him, but transferred. Then, she sent him a message talking about how they met at a party and danced and flirted all night. When I confronted him with evidence he admitted that he met Jane at a party while me and him were on a break and continued to be her friend. How should I take this? Thank you
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TALK TO HIM AND PLAY IT BY EAR
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just tell him what goes around comes around..
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try to go on with your life and try to get another boyfriend
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well, he lied to you & continued to see another girl that he had a kinda of relationship w/ while you two were on break. it is really bad that he lied to you. i think you need to talk with him about it…
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If he runs to another girl when things get rocky then he will do it again and he isnt worth your time. There are a lot of GOOD guys out there ditch the @$$
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This twisted love affair im sure will never last
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It’s completly ovbious that he’s lying- He keeps adding more and more to the story to make it true to you- Just give up and don’t give yourself this aggravation, if you give him up now it’ll be easier when there’s even MORE evidence agienst him
Good Luck
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This has happened to me before. Guys think when they are on a break it is okay. I do not think it is if they intend on getting back together. I would tell him if he wants to talk to her then you are not going to talk to him My boyfriend volunteered to call her and tell her that him and I were back together. I would ask him nicely if he would do that. As for him lying in the first place never good!
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Talk to him about it!!
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You took a break for three weeks after being with this guy for four years. During the three weeks he went hunting for your replacement and found her. Now you got back together and he is keeping her so he has both of you. Why can’t you see this? As he kept lying -it’s because he is guilty of something and that something is he is still seeing this new woman and didn’t want you to know. Whenever a man lies to his girlfriend it’s because he knows the truth would be unacceptable.
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If you had a break from each other, did you talk about seeing other people. If you did you sohould be able to tell each other the truth. I belibve that he is not telling you the truth because is not able to let this person go or he has not told her about you. The decision is now yours wheather you can trust him.
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dump the bastard and get someone who cares and respects you
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well he already lied about it and that makes a bad situation worse you should ask him not to have any dealings with her even if he says they are just friends because as far as the girl he already lied once tell him it shouldnt be a big deal because they just meet if he doesnt then all i can say is watch your back because if they flirted once it will happen again i know you guys have been together for along time and it might be hard to sever the ties between you two but i htink you should be careful if he doesnt understand you request(that he not see th girl again) then ask him how would he feel if if you wanted to be friends with someone who you were flirting with and attracted to.
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Listen very carefully to your heart, whether you are angry with him or yourself.
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It’s shit if you ask me. This guy doesn’t know what you’re worth, and it’s bullshit. I’m sorry, it just sounds unfair. Break up with him, and tell him how you feel. Cry if you feel sad, ’cause it’s good to be in touch with your feelings. Take your time to heal. And when you’re ready, I strongly believe that you will find a guy who you really deserve. Pardon my language, I just feel for you. Good luck and take care, dude.
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i think you should come right out and ask him what you place is in his life and how much does this other girl mean to him I hope the answers are what you need.
Good luck…………
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if you in love with him catch him
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I would not bet the kitchen sink on the relationship. It is also not a Good idea to put too much into what happened while you were disengaged. Remember the don’t ask don’t tell in the military well don’t set yourself up for grief by opening locked doors. When He is ready to tell you stuff He will. If he keeps defensive there must be something to the activity but don’t forget men think with their package most of the time and not their hearts. Go forward With things and do not torment yourself. If you do not trust him now how will it be years down the road when you have less youth to offer and He is around hot babes. If you take care of business and keep his interest then there is nothing to worry about. Suspicion does more damage than hidden affairs because most of the time it is greatly overblown. his guilt will settle things without you fooling around. That is if he has something to be guilty about. guys and girls should have good friends among the opposite sex and their partners should not get upset by it.
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Since he met her during the break, there’s no sway you have over that. But you two have come back together again. You have to talk to him maturely about this, or else he’s just going to label you as a jealous psycho. When you talk to him, make sure he understands that you consider him your boyfriend again. And that you need to know who she is and what kind of relationship he wants to have with her: acquaintance, friends, close friends, etc. Also explain to him that need to know because you don’t want to be the jealous type, you just need to know so you can stop making her an issue. If you stay calm and mature, the discussion should go well. And if he seems hesitant at first, try to reassure him. My boyfriend was like that too, but then he realized that I really did want to move on, that I didn’t want to keep “wondering” about the “other girl”!
And just so you know, they are still friends, it’s been 2 1/2 years and it doesn’t bother me anymore. He always lets me know when they are going to hang out, and where they’re going. I’ll usually make dates with my other friends the same night too
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